Sexual addiction is any sexually compulsive behavior which impacts you or your family and friends. Sexual addiction can also be known as sexual compulsion. Regardless of the name, it is defined as any sexually compulsive behavior that controls a person’s life. If you think you may be struggling with a sex or pornography addiction, please call our office now at 321-332-6984 to schedule your free, confidential consultation with a sex addiction therapist.
“Like an alcoholic unable to stop drinking, sexual addicts are unable to stop their self-destructive sexual behavior. Family breakups, financial disaster, loss of jobs, and risk to life are the painful themes of their stories. Sex addicts come from all walks of life – they may be ministers, physicians, homemakers, factory workers, salespersons, secretaries, clerks, accountants, therapists, dentists, politicians, or executives, to name just a few examples. Most were abused as children – sexually, physically, and/or emotionally. The majority grew up in families in which addiction already flourished, including alcoholism, compulsive eating, and compulsive gambling. Most grapple with other addictions as well, but they find sex addiction the most difficult to stop. Much hope nevertheless exists for these addicts and their families. Sex addicts have shown an ability to transform a life of self-destruction into a life of self-care, a life in chaos and despair into one of confidence and peace.”
– Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. Author of “Out of the Shadows,” 1992
WHAT DEFINES A SEX ADDICT
There is not any one behavior that makes someone a sex addict. However, the list of behaviors below can be indicators of sexual addiction and can take control of a person’s life and make it unmanageable.
- Compulsive masturbation
- Multiple affairs
- Multiple or anonymous sex partners
- Chronic use of pornography
- Unsafe sex
- Phone or cybersex
- Patronizing massage parlors or strip clubs
- Obsessive dating using personal ads
- Voyeurism (watching others)
- Sexual harassment
- Molestation, rape, or other forms of sexual abuse
While a diagnosis for sex or pornography addiction should only be determined by a trained sex addiction therapist, the following behavior patterns suggest an individual should seek counseling immediately as a sexual addiction may be present.
- Acting out: Ongoing use of a sexual behavior that has become out of control.
- Having severe consequences due to sexual behavior and not being able to stop in spite of those consequences. Examples can include the loss of a spouse, severe relationship issues, unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc.
- Ongoing desire to stop or reduce sexual behavior.
- Sexually obsessive thoughts as a way to escape from relational or emotional pain.
SEXUAL ADDICTION VERSUS OTHER ADDICTIONS
Sex addicts are really no different than other types of addicts. Those addicted to alcohol or other drugs develop a dependency with their “drug of choice” which takes priority over all other aspects of their lives. They feel like they have to have their drug just to feel normal.
With a Sex or Porn Addict, the situation is the same. Sex or pornography is substituted for alcohol, food, or drugs and provides the “high” that the addict needs to feel normal. They often replace healthy relationships for unhealthy ones. They seek instant gratification rather than the satisfaction that comes from healthy intimate relationships. Sex and porn addiction is rampant in Orlando and is progressive in nature just like other addictions. Sex addicts fail to control their behavior and experience great shame over their constant failure to do so. Their self-esteem plummets which causes greater emotional pain and thereby provides greater fuel for the need to escape more into their sexual behaviors.
Fees for counseling sessions by a trained sex addiction counselor are $100/hour. Scholarship discounts may be available for low income clients. Please call our office at 321-332-6984 for additional information.
Sex and porn addiction groups are offered at a rate of $35/hour. Groups are offered at flexible times during the week including evenings. Call our office at 321-332-6984 to get an updated schedule of group times.
RECOVERY PACKAGE RATES: We also offer special rates for those that are serious about their recovery and want to treat it from a holistic perspective. Our packages include weekly therapy sessions, acupuncture and massage therapy for stress management, as well as nutritional counseling to overcome the impact that the addiction has had on your brain chemicals. Rates for monthly packages range from $260 – $695.
I was so tired of trying, failing, trying harder, failing again, and so on. I had finally hit bottom when I reached out for help. The sex addiction counselor at THG gave me hope. I was given a practical approach that was different than anything else I had tried. When I followed the plan – it worked! While I lost my marriage and my job because of my addiction, I have gained freedom and peace from my journey of recovery. Total Health Guidance was a huge part of my healing journey. Thank you! B.D. – Ocoee